Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Work families

The workplace is a funny thing. You spend most of your waking hours there. You see your co-workers more than your own family most days – even most of the week. You spend all week with these people counting the days until your weekend when you don’t have to see your co-workers anymore, and then you only get 48 free hours to be with whoever you want and do whatever you want. But what about your co-workers? What do you actually know about them? How much time do you actually spend talking to them? How much time do you spend sitting in a chair while staring at your computer screen? In a slightly less than perfect world (because, lets face it, in a perfect world we wouldn’t work), our co-workers should be like family.
I watch TV shows about co-workers where the characters are one big urban family. They work long hours, talk about their lives, disagree, and spend time together after work, because they don’t have time for outside connections. These shows fascinate me because I love thinking about the workplace/friendship dynamic. This is also why I love my grad program so much, because we talk about this in class sometimes. Do you know there are actual studies that prove every person needs a “work best friend” (aka “Work BFF”) to help motivate someone to come to work and that person becomes more productive and enjoys the job more? I think this theory is really true. I have a work BFF also.
Tonight I was watching a show called “Sports Night” created by Aaron Sorkin, who also created “The West Wing” and is the genius behind “Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip.” I also just “IMBD-ed” him and learned he wrote the script for “The American President” too! His shows are all about the workplace dynamic and all the characters become like family. I swear every time I watch “Studio 60” I wish I worked there. People say I’m crazy when I say that because the characters have no social lives, are workaholics, and never sleep, but I feel like in real life it would be worth it if you legitimately loved your job and loved the people you work with.
I think Aaron Sorkin is right about one thing for sure, that the main reason a person will love their job and stay at it is because they enjoy their co-workers and view them as more than just co-workers. And if you think about it, if you’re spending most of your waking hours at work, don’t you want to like who you work with?

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Top Ten: Answered prayers

This week has been full of realizing and remembered answered prayers. God answers prayers and His timing is always perfect – never early, but always on time. Here are my Top Ten answered prayers that I have been thinking about this week:
1. My Dad is safe while traveling (he is in New York tonight and tomorrow leaves for London…then Dubai).
2. My Mom has a relationship with her new sister and it is a huge blessing after praying and looking for her after seven years.
3. Ashley and I are enjoying living together (and getting along).
4. Emily starts her new job on Monday after being unemployed since May.
5. I have a permanent job and my coworkers have been wonderful.
6. Chrissie is having a girl.
7. I have friends – who I see on a weekly basis… I actually sleep way less and am home a lot less, but it is wonderful. Church friends. Nichol. Kristy. All are blessings.
8. Life is better today than it was a year ago… one year ago my life sort of fell apart (mostly my emotional/mental/spiritual health) and I wasn’t sure what my life would look like one year later… it looks better than I could have imagined, which is a total blessing.
9. My counselor.
10. George is still not married.

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Friends all over the place

I was supposed to leave for New York City tomorrow. My Dad is going on business and my goal after last October’s trip to NY was to go every year with him (and hopefully with my mom and sister), but he leaves tomorrow and I can’t go. I got a new position at work (which was also a promotion) two weeks ago and really can’t take time off. I think it is a pretty good reason. J The job is going well… it is really overwhelming, but I get to be independent, which I like.
I went home this weekend to see my parents and say good bye to a good friend who leave for the Marines tomorrow. I love going home. It is so beautiful in San Diego. There is this house about five minutes from mine that was for sale about two months ago and my Mom jokingly told me to buy it, and now when either of us drives by it we consider it mine. Haha, we are such dreamers. If I lived there I could see my parents all the time. They could walk Lucy (our dog) to my house. We could go to the grocery store together and the movies together and church. We could still have family dinner after church on Saturday nights. But, I could also have my independence. Do dishes when I feel like it and watch “Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip” all day. Part of me wishes I lived in that house and in San Diego…home. But, on the other hand, the reason I hardly blog these days is because I finally have a social life here in LA! The Lord has blessed me with friends! The kind who hang out every weekend and throughout the week. It keeps me busy and I love it. They are wonderful and it has been a lot of fun. It’s nice to finally have things come together and be answered prayers after five years of living away from home. I have a long way to go with them, but I am blessed.
Local friends are good, especially when these days my friends are spreading further and further around the globe. My Dad leaves for NY and then London and then Dubai. My good friend, Nikki, is in Afghanistan for three weeks and regularly lives in D.C. My friend, Ian, is leaving for the Marines to go spend six months in Virginia. My good friend, Amy, lives in Chicago. My friend, Alex, just moved to Hawaii. My new family (for explanation read my Mom’s blog) lives in Florida. I am going to my Aunt Sue’s house in November for a “new union” with the FL family, so I’ll be going to Dallas. Everyone is just all over the place. I guess this happens when you grow up, huh?
Speaking of, on Saturday night my family and I got together with family friends to see my Mom’s good friend, Marti, who flew in from Spokane. My Mom, Nancy, and Marti have all been friends for 30 years. It is so much fun to hear their stories. They just laugh and laugh about old times. I love it. There is this picture I like to look at of this whole crew at a cabin in Big Bear where they all used to go before they had kids (and a few time with us kids). I wish I could have known all of them then…been their friend. It would have been fascinating to see what they were all like when they were my age. I wonder if I will have a group of friends to go away with someday… I wonder if I already do (I've wondered this before).
I read a dedication in a book today that said, “…and to those of us who were together when we were young.” I think it fits this post beautifully.

Friday, October 9, 2009


Rainy days.
Date days.
Pay days.
Long days.
Fast days.
Busy days.
Sick days.
Family days.
Vacation days.
Laundry days.
Appointment days.
Mental health days.
Sad days.
Fun days.
Blue days.
“Romantical” days.
Moving days.
Study days.
Christmas days.
Stay-in-bed days.
Valentines’ days.
Catch up days.
Make up days.
Bright and early days.
Get on a plane days.
Church days.
Camp days.
Party days.
Graduation days.
Lonely days.
Forgotten days.
Beach days.
Road trip days.
Hospital days.
Wedding days.
Mail days.
Election days.
Dog sit days.
Day care days.
Spa days.
Tea days.
Shopping days.
TV marathon days.
Retreat days.
Couple days.
Fire days.
Snow days.
Cloudy days.
Grumpy days.
Bygone days.
Full days.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Updates are hard to write when you're sick.

Well, it has been over a week since I last wrote, and I promised myself (and you) that I would write at least once a week. Even my sister commented on my lack of a recent post (thanks for reading, Ash)! So that means it is time for an update.
I have been pretty sick for the last few days. Even writing this post is taking energy I am not sure I have. I hate being sick. First of all, it reminds me that I live because I have to ask my roommates to take care of me and only ask when I legitimately can’t do it on my own. If I were at home my Mom would be making sure I am okay. I miss that, but I do appreciate her and my Dad’s sympathy on the phone. My sister has been really nice to me though, so again, I am glad we live together. I also hate being sick because I miss out on all social plans, which are the highlights of my week. And, I am missing work, which is really, really stressing me out. It makes me feel like a slacker, which I am not, but I still feel that way.
Speaking of work, I got a new position at work last week. I am officially the Admissions Manager now, which is very exciting. It means I am no longer a temporary employee, which is a big relief. I am also salaried now and get my tuition discount back. It is strange to know that I will for sure be here for at least two more years now that I have a permanent job. But I do love security and now I have it!
In other news, my family is five people bigger now. My mom and sisters found their “lost sister” last weekend (read her entry about it here). She was given up for adoption by my grandparents 60 years ago and she has been searching for years and my mom and her sisters have been searching and last weekend they were all introduced and united through e-mail and Facebook. It is pretty incredible. We are all having a big family reunion in November, which should be pretty cool.
Anyway, other than being home sick, life is good and busy. I hang out with friends a lot these days, which I am so thankful for. It has been a long time waiting for friends and a social life and now that it is here I am taking advantage of every opportunity to hang out and continue getting to know these new people.