Monday, December 2, 2013

Carrie-ing on about December

Dear December,

Please go easy on me. You are the month that closes what I have named "the year of change" and there is still one big exciting change left... my sister is getting married. I am incredibly excited for Ashley and Chris to continue their life together and start this next chapter as a married couple in their great town home, with their adorable little puppy, and am honestly looking forward to watching them pledge their life-long commitment to one another in front of all of our loved ones. But please, December, go slowly.

Let me soak in every minute of this month. Let me drive slowly around my neighborhood to gaze at the magic of Christmas lights and smile at the site of lit crosses reminding me of what this Christmas season is really about. Please move slowly through the coming cold temperatures (although it was 75 today, but the weather report says a high of 60 for the rest of this week!). Allow me to soak in last moments as an official family of four and cherish the conversations and laughter. And I pray for a lack of tears and frustration with one another.

Let me enjoy this last month of a year that has brought change to literally every area of my life. I moved into a home with a family where I rent a room, moved out from sharing an apartment with my sister. I got a new boss (technically at the end of 2012, but the effects were mostly in this year) and our department is going through yet another transition. I also got a new job title - Assistant Director of Admissions - and am moving to a new office space at the beginning of the new year. I lost 20 pounds. I started watching less TV. I finally joined a bible study.

Let this last month, December, be a culmination and celebration of all the changes I have had the courage to try this year. Let it be a reminder that God's plans are greater than my own and that His timing is perfect.

December, be a month stored of cherished moments, God-given encouragement, and end 2013 on a positive note of feeling proud of the year, grateful for the lessons, and excited for the fact that 2013 proved - and forced - 2014 to look entirely different. This month, let me continue the positive changes I have made, have a positive strategic mindset for the work challenges to come, and have love, excitement, and patience as I witness my sister become a wife and I gain a brother-in-law. Let there be less tears, more laughter. Less worry, more faith. Less bitterness, more encouragement. Less pessimism, more excitement. But most of all, let me live this month to the fullest and the joy-est and the grateful-est ways that I can.

And please, let there be lots of cold weather (but no rain on Ashley's wedding day in December).


Thursday, March 14, 2013

#cubiclelife wisdom

Today a coworker reminded me that I need to live my life. Prioritize my life. Put me first.

I had confessed that sometimes I worry that I should move closer to my family to enjoy every last day with them because some day we will have no more days together.

She told me that makes sense, but that is their life and I have to cultivate mine.

Then I confessed (what is she the new Pope?) that sometimes oftentimes I don't even know what I want in my own life. That if everything was out the window, I would have no clue what to do or which direction to go.

But I also acknowledged that the older I get the more I start to think my life is going in the direction it should, even if it wasn't the direction I expected.

(sorry for my posting absence and I have no promise on when I'll pick it back up regularly  In the meantime, I will post when inspired or want to remember and don't want to use a pencil.)

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

5 years

Top 10 (or 20) things I’ve learned as an employee:

1. It’s important to know how to use the copy machine.
2. How to craft an email that balances professional, pleading, demanding, and sweet.
3. Organization is everything.
4. Listen to your voicemails every day.
5. You don’t have to respect someone, but you have to be polite.
6. Apologize, but only when it’s truly needed.
7. A “work BFF” makes a world of difference.
8. Only complain to coworkers you trust (those people are your friends).
9. Age has nothing to do with good leadership.
10. Make to do lists.
11. Most decisions are made outside of work (this is networking).
12. Be your own advocate.
13. Keep your integrity at all costs. Do the right thing no matter how risky or unpopular your decision. At the end of the day, you have to know you did everything you could
14. Administrative assistants are the people with the real power. Be nice to them, the office runs because of them.
15. Paychecks really do bring happiness (even though it seems shallow).
16. When you’re angry, take a break.
17. I don’t like to talk work, answer the phone, or make decisions before 9am.
18. Fridays are the longest day of the week.
19.Laughter at the workplace makes a world of difference.
20. Coworkers make or break a job (I’ve been blessed with some really great ones). 

(and now for some seriousness...)

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Dear Amy: The Bachelor via Twitter

Dear Amy,

I am beyond excited that you want to follow twitter during The Bachelor tomorrow. It is now my favorite thing about the show. The problem I have is that my twitter feed is packed with tweets starting at 5, which is complicated because I can’t watch the show until 8. So, the first thing to know is that most people live tweet on east coast time, so finish the dishes and then be prepared to read hilarious tweets backward until 5. The second is to search and use the hashtag #TheBachelor when tweeting (which you did and I am very proud). 

I may have gone a bit overboard on who you should follow while watching, so I’ll start with the most crucial and then list a bunch of Bachelor alum you can check out if you want more tweets.

Also, remember that you love me, even if I am obsessive about twitter and reality TV.

Here is a list of who to follow while watching The Bachelor…

The basics:

Dana Weiss  @Possessionista – the single most important person to follow. She loves to live tweet The Bachelor and also has become twitter friends with most of the cast and they love her live tweets too. Plus, I love her tweets in general, she is one of my favorites to follow.
Jennifer Weiner   @jenniferweiner – she is an author and LOVES live tweeting the show.
lara cohen  @Larakate – not sure if she will live tweet, but I love her tweets in general and she and Dana often go back and forth.
Andrea Lavinthal  @andilavs – ditto to what I said about Lara.
Sean Lowe  @SeanLowe09 – for obvious reasons (since he is THE bachelor), although it probably won’t be too juicy or funny.
Chris Harrison   @chrisbharrison – also for obvious reasons (and I love him).

These next four people work on the show and tweet often throughout: 

My favorite Bachelor alum to follow on twitter:

Jenna Burke  @TheOverAnalyst – one of my favorite tweeters in general and I am sure she’ll be live tweeting.
Ashley S.  @AshleySpivey – from Brad’s season, writes a blog in review of every episode, and is good friends of many Bachelor alum.
Michelle Money  @MoneyMichelle – the “bad” one from Brad’s season, but now I really like her (mostly because of her tweets).
Ali Fedotowsky   @AliFedotowsky – as in Ali the Bachelorette
DeAnna Stagliano  @DeAnnaPappas – DeAnna the Bachelorette

Other alum to look into:

Molly Mesnick   @MollyMesnick – as Molly and Jason
Kacie Boguskie  @kacielynnb – sweet Kacie B from Ben’s season
Michael Stagliano   @MichaelStag – was on The Bachelorette, but I don’t remember him, however, he was also on both seasons of Bachelor Pad and is a fan favorite for someday being The Bachelor.
William Holman  @WilliamFHolman – also a Bachelor alum from Ashley’s season and I find him witty and sometimes charming.
Emily Maynard   @EmilyMaynard – we’ll see if she tweets since she “broke his heart.”
Trista Sutter   @tristasutter – sometimes she tweets too much and sometimes she annoys me, but she is basically Bachelor royalty.
Natalie Getz  @nataliegetz – also has a write up about every episode (and is a Bachelor alum)

Monday, December 31, 2012

2012, back in time to say good bye

Dear friends,

Happy New Year!!!

Thank you for checking back in to visit and read after my long hiatus. I really appreciate the friends and family who have mentioned missing my blog updates, and as promised, I do plan to bring back the blogging for 2013. I can’t totally explain my absence, except to say that I had a bad case of writer’s block and also began to feel a bit self-obsessed with this little space in the internet. But I am back and so thankful for you to come back alongside me!

2012 was a good year and because my blog was quiet, here are some highlights:

1 Vacation to Palm Desert with my fam, but most of the time it was just me and Ash.
2 Became a fan of Angels' baseball
3 Sad about the passing of Whitney Houston and Nora Ephron
4 Traveled with Ash to DC to visit our good friend, Nikki, and our cousins
5 Heard Anne Lamott talk (for the second time), stalked George Clooney, saw celebrities for an opening night of theater in LA, & “met” several famous women at the LA Women’s Expo
6 Permed my very straight hair 
7 Spent Thanksgiving with Mom’s side of the family in Sarasota, FL!
8 Lots of time spent at Disneyland
10 Soaked up time with family and friends (especially the Teri’s)

This New Year, 2013, will bring a lot of change for me due to work, family, and housing. So my theme, rather than a resolution, will be to be open to change, and therefore brave. I will continually remind myself to welcome change and remind myself that I can do hard things. I know it will be a great year of lessons and learning, which is only fitting since 2012 has been so relatively easy on me. All in all, I am looking forward to the journey.  

I wish you all a very happy, peaceful, healing, and healthy 2013. 

Sunday, July 1, 2012

the moving future

Lately I have been spending a lot of time thinking about my future. It is always something I think about these days, more so than any other time in my life. I have been asked a lot recently about my future and where I will live and what I want to do. I seem to tell people the answers I think I am supposed to, it is what I have always been best at, so the habit is very hard to break.

But today I had a thought... it is okay to stay. It is okay to go home. It is okay to live in the same area for your entire life. It is not a loss. It is not a failure. That person's life is not smaller than someone who left. I tell people that I want to try living in New York City, and to be honest, I do think about it. I talk about a possible future in Texas for a grad program or if my parents ever move there. I am dying to visit Seattle to consider a move there. But actually, these are just answers I say for people to think I am more interesting or driven or braver than I actually am.

Truth is, I don't think I want to leave. I realized today that all of my favorite TV shows and movies and books are about staying or returning home. Gilmore Girls, Providence, Brothers & Sisters, October Road, etc. All those plots are about home and coming to terms with being an adult where you grew up. It is not easy. I talk to my mom nearly every day and I am - or maybe we both are - still learning how to navigate our relationship as her baby girl grows up and as I realize my mom is an adult in the real world. I have to say, being in the corporate world and living on my own and having good friends my parent's age, has given me a new level of understanding or a new dimension of a relationship about them.

All this to say, your life is still full if you never left where you grew up but please move out of your parents' house for at least a bit). I will still be just as capable and accomplished if I ever decide to return to my hometown. I think all I want to know is that home is always there and that you can always come home. I heard a great quote about this today: "life needs to be an adventure. The world is big and it's exciting and if you don't like it, home is always waiting for you. The door is always open, you can return."

This thought is so exciting and inspiring, but what about breaking leases and having money for food when you move away? How do you navigate the decision to leave and the decision to accept that you should go back? It's all a very interesting thought process as a single, corporate, twenty-something.

So, we'll see...

Tuesday, June 26, 2012


Please forgive the hiatus. 
I wrote my Nora Ephron post for my own need to document daily life, but aside from that, I know I haven't written in a while. 
I have to say, I think my hiatus will continue for a bit. Life is good and busy and happy, but I seem to have some writer's block. 
In the meantime, thank you for checking in.